Past Due

You may have noticed, I’m a take charge kinda gal. I like shit done + I like it done my way. She was due Saturday and I just knew she wasn’t coming. I also knew that since she wasn’t coming on time, I was shutting this party down + inducing by the 10th. Someone had to take charge. 40 weeks is a long damn time!

When we got into the doctor’s office this morning, I was waiting for them to tell me I was 6cm dilated + to head to the hospital. I don’t even know if that’s how shit works! But, that’s how it was working in my mind. So, when she said that I had went from 2.5cm dilated to 1cm… backwards! I almost fell off the fucking table!

Watching my type A husband wrap his mind around that concept was pure comedy:

James: how far is she dilated?

Doctor: 1cm

James: so that’s 3.5cm

Doctor: no, that’s 1cm

James: no, she was 2.5 + the 1cm?

Doctor: no. She’s 1cm

James: wait…

The next step was to make a plan. I was told I could induce since we were past due + just as I was sure the words “Let’s Induce!” would fall out my mouth, “So we wait” came out instead. My plan was to rush her + make this shit happen, true to my nature. But, I’m pretty sure this is lesson no. 1 with this Virgo girl of mine, and so I will step back, breathe + let her do her, even though it is trulyyyyy at my expense.

My job as her mother, is to make sure that she has all the resources I can afford her + then get out of her way. The rest is up to her. So, I will rest, continue to eat hella good, continue to monitor her + give her as much time as they are giving me. And, she will learn that just like with all things in the universe, you are given the opportunity to make the choice, learn the lesson + do it in your own time, and if you don’t… the universe will do that shit for you.

I am officially stepping back. I believe in her. She will come, on her own + in her own time. I still predict on the 9th or 10th. But, if not… the universe + I will see her stubborn ass on the 14th.

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Kenya Raymer is a writer, blogger, dancer and the hostess of the natural-hair meet up Curls & Cocktails. She is a self-love enthusiast who uses her natural-hair platform as a space to discuss hair and all things beautiful & real. She is loving in Nashville, TN, where she promotes the local eats, animal rescue, self-awareness, personal growth, happiness and finding comfort in your own skin.

18 thoughts on “Past Due

  1. Aww, she’s definitely going by the beat of her own drum! I love the commentaries regarding your husband, had me rolling, lol. Thanks for sharing this journey with us, looking forward to her arrival (when she sees fit). All the best😊

  2. I adore how you see the deeper meanining behind situations and develop from them. I know what it’s like to want to be able to control everything, but it is nice to take a step back and just let it play out the way it needs to.

  3. Thank you for sharing this perspective. I love your attitude. One of the biggest lessons I have taken on motherhood thus far, from my now 15 month daughter is that I am NOT in control of everything. Everything…EVERYTHING you said here, preach!

  4. She may surprise you in a day or two, but if not…oh well! Enjoy the food, being able to go ANYWHERE without a second thought, and enjoy the quiet until she decides she’s ready! My Gemini (send help) decided 5 weeks early was his jam, and has been running the game ever since!

  5. Lemme tell ya Mama Ken, I liiiive for your updates! I’m so excited to see her little face and puffy cheeks 😍😍😍. Sending you lots of love and comfort!

  6. Muva Truths! Thank you for sharing your journey with #TeamVillageNoVillage as an outsider I appreciate all of your sharing and openness you choose to give us. She is amazing already

  7. Good job mommy!! letting your sweet baby girl get here when she is ready and if not then giving her the eviction notice! Enjoy each day !! Can’t wait for the blog about after she is here!! Or the insta stories starting with “y’all didn’t tell me …. lol”

  8. As a Virgo born on September 8th who has listened to my mother go on and on about how I decided to come late and wait RIGHT until she was busy taking my older brother and sister to the first day of school, I feel for you :-). My mother always talks about how I do things at my own pace. Your daughter will be thankful for your patience, even if it’s a forced patience every now and then. Prayers for a safe and smooth delivery when it’s time for her to come! Thanks for sharing your process

  9. I saw you and Walli (He is so beautiful) leaving Pet smart the other day. I wanted to say hi but Walli looked as if he was giving you a hard time by the tree. Here’s to a happy and safe delivery!!

    1. Awe! He is always giving me a hard time lol! I’m sorry we missed each other, but for the best. He’s super protective + would have ruined his soft + cuddly image that he portrays to the public πŸ˜‰ thank you! xok

  10. With luv πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’• Virgo Heartβ™πŸ’Œ
    Thank you for sharing your’s and your family’s heart. What a beautiful gift.

  11. Lmao !! Baby girl lets go now. Just be happy she isn’t me, a Gemini. Who crashed my sisters birthday, by being born on her birthday.

  12. When I saw induce I was like nooooo let her come on her own, glad to see that’s what you’ve decided to do let nature take its course. Happy Birthing

  13. Awww. I was 16 days late, my daughter 10 days late and my second 16 days late. That pressure around induction can be stressful. I never let them induce, just lot of monitoring/ non stress tests and no vaginal checks (I was 2 centimeters the day I gave birth to my daughter! Walked around at 4 for over a week with the son It means nothing lol) so cleaning and relaxing your mind letting baby no it was safe to come, every thing in order seems to help. Peace!

  14. I’m a Scorpio (November 6th) and due today (September 8th) it’s amazing how the universe sends us places cause you came up on my popular page and her I am. I’ve been thinking of how to induce but will probably do as you did and wait it out, excited to find my balance with this Virgo and congrats to you and yours.

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