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The Not So Newlywed Game

June 29, 2016.Reading time less than 1 minute.

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Kenya Raymer

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Do you believe in magick in a young girl’s heart... behold, my girl + her first wand✨ . She’s either a Ravenclaw or Hufflepuff, time will tell! I’m obvi a Slytherin. Which house are you??

Boho Twists // Passion Twists . This is my first time doing them + I’ve only had them a couple days, so they aren’t the best + I don’t have all the answers, but I’ll tell ya what I did + my initial thoughts... . They are the same as marley or Senegalese twists, but twisted with a curly hair. I prepped the hair with an ACV rinse to strip it of any harsh chemicals that might irritate my skin. I used the same installation method (2 strand twist) that I use with marleys (blog post linked in my story on how I install my marley twists + do the acv rinse), but it was much more difficult bc the hair is very soft + silky. I saw some tutorials using a rubber band method or the braid-in method for installation, but aesthetically I prefer the 2 strand twist bc it looks most natural to me. I’ll link the hair I used in my story + leave it in the HAIR highlight, but I’m not doing a tutorial bc that’s not my thing. There are lots of YT videos on how to do these twists! . There are 38 twists. I used 2 strands on the edges + 3 strands on the rest. It took 6 hours to do them, bc I stretched the hair as I went along + that is tedious AF. I stretch/separate the hair by hand + not with a brush bc I feel like the hair tangles easy + the brush method ain’t it, but to each is own... Idk how long they’ll last bc the silky hair causes them to slip. . If you’re going for the boho look, which I am, they are supposed to be imperfect + not so neat. I nailed it 😂. I don’t recommend the boho look for type A personalities, bc I’m fixing them all the time + it’s driving me crazy! I have seen some super neat passion twists though + that may be the way to go if the boho look frazzles you. Since the hair is so silky, they seem much more fragile than marley twists + that is a huge negative to me. The big positive is the ends. I HATE the ends of marley twists bc they rarely look neat. The ends of these twists are curly + even imperfect, they are really pretty. Another positive is that they are very light + no tension at all. So, if you’re like me + spend lots of money on braids + faux locs, only to take them right down... this might be the move for you. Let me know if you have any questions!

DUH papa @dolewite101 !!! #VirgosTHISisYourQUEEN

The great thing about Instagram is finding people who become friends in your head. It’s even better when they become your friends in real life! . I met @stylenbeautydoc at a Curls + Cocktails that I hosted in NYC, in what seems like another lifetime... and, I met @india.marie at the first Curls + Cocktails that I hosted here in Nashville. So grateful to have kept up with both of them💚 . The dress is old Forever 21, but I linked a similar one in my stories. Boots are linked in stories too.

Girls Night Out✨ . We’ve had the same argument for almost 20 years... who’s the meanest? 😂 I get a bad rep bc I say what’s on my mind + I don’t sugar coat my words. I call shit like it is. I’m quit to cut folks the fuck off, I’m not quick to give second chances + I’m not friends with people for the sake of friendship. You really have to be adding value to my life, making me a better human or what the fuck are we even doing... . On the flip side, I promise I’m the one you want on your side. I’m sturdy in the dark. I’m the one you will call + I’m the one who will show up when it counts. I will always have your back, no questions asked. You hate that bitch, WE HATE THAT BITCH😂. And, nothing makes me happier than to reflect your light. You got that amazing job, you quit that shitty job, you made a human, you are celebrating... WE ARE CELEBRATING + first round is on me✨ . I often get mistaken for a hard rock, but truly I’m a gem. It’s important that I remind myself of this. Almost as important that I remind @sassy_mpm that I’m not the meanest, she is🏆. And since I’m the nice one, I’m gonna give her the photo cred she deserves (and demanded btw). Normally she takes the shittiest pictures, but somehow managed to get these two shots with my head in them. 2 shots in 20 years... you’re doing amazing sweetie!! . pc // @sassy_mpm . Top + shoes are @Amazon. They are linked in my story + Amazon highlight

When I first started therapy, my therapist + I created some goals for my journey. The first was to beef up my SAHM mom village. I have close friends who are mothers, but they work + getting together is like the Olympic bidding process: everyone puts their date up, hopes the odds are ever in their favor + when they’re not, we don’t see each other for another four years🤷🏽‍♀️. . Being a SAHM can be a bit isolating. It’s like the hunger games, where the challenge changes on the hour + on a lot of days, you’re just using watercolors to survive until nightfall. So my therapist thought it would be good idea to have some familiar faces and to be around other women who are experiencing similar struggles, celebrating similar milestones + who have a similar appreciation for athleisure wear. As an introvert, I died at this suggestion... What if this meant I had to give someone my phone number? Fuck. . But, I obliged bc I think she is right + also I’m paying her cash money, so it’s a waste to ignore her suggestions. I picked some moms that I already knew, liked personally + also as a parent (that part is important), started to invite them to shit + they came. My SAHM Village was born! Thankfully, I didn’t have to give out my number to someone new + it wasn’t even as hard as I thought it would be. . My therapist was right, the familiar faces are comforting + it does feel good to have someone understand that you’re tired, but that you also need to stay up until 1am binge watching Netflix bc decompressing is necessary after 10 hours of talking in 2 word sentences, reading the same book over + over, and making up songs to get little people to eat, sleep, put clothes on + let you wipe their ass. It also feels good to have someone to give knowing looks to when you’re 👌🏽 close to chopping someone else’s kid in the throat. . And, the best part about having a SAHM Village is that you’re getting pictures of this adorable play date from every. angle🙌🏽😂#MomsWhyAreWeLikeThis . Selah to Blake: Get in! We got shit to do + we’re on a schedule.

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Do you believe in magick in a young girl’s heart... behold, my girl + her first wand✨ . She’s either a Ravenclaw or Hufflepuff, time will tell! I’m obvi a Slytherin. Which house are you??

Boho Twists // Passion Twists . This is my first time doing them + I’ve only had them a couple days, so they aren’t the best + I don’t have all the answers, but I’ll tell ya what I did + my initial thoughts... . They are the same as marley or Senegalese twists, but twisted with a curly hair. I prepped the hair with an ACV rinse to strip it of any harsh chemicals that might irritate my skin. I used the same installation method (2 strand twist) that I use with marleys (blog post linked in my story on how I install my marley twists + do the acv rinse), but it was much more difficult bc the hair is very soft + silky. I saw some tutorials using a rubber band method or the braid-in method for installation, but aesthetically I prefer the 2 strand twist bc it looks most natural to me. I’ll link the hair I used in my story + leave it in the HAIR highlight, but I’m not doing a tutorial bc that’s not my thing. There are lots of YT videos on how to do these twists! . There are 38 twists. I used 2 strands on the edges + 3 strands on the rest. It took 6 hours to do them, bc I stretched the hair as I went along + that is tedious AF. I stretch/separate the hair by hand + not with a brush bc I feel like the hair tangles easy + the brush method ain’t it, but to each is own... Idk how long they’ll last bc the silky hair causes them to slip. . If you’re going for the boho look, which I am, they are supposed to be imperfect + not so neat. I nailed it 😂. I don’t recommend the boho look for type A personalities, bc I’m fixing them all the time + it’s driving me crazy! I have seen some super neat passion twists though + that may be the way to go if the boho look frazzles you. Since the hair is so silky, they seem much more fragile than marley twists + that is a huge negative to me. The big positive is the ends. I HATE the ends of marley twists bc they rarely look neat. The ends of these twists are curly + even imperfect, they are really pretty. Another positive is that they are very light + no tension at all. So, if you’re like me + spend lots of money on braids + faux locs, only to take them right down... this might be the move for you. Let me know if you have any questions!

DUH papa @dolewite101 !!! #VirgosTHISisYourQUEEN

The great thing about Instagram is finding people who become friends in your head. It’s even better when they become your friends in real life! . I met @stylenbeautydoc at a Curls + Cocktails that I hosted in NYC, in what seems like another lifetime... and, I met @india.marie at the first Curls + Cocktails that I hosted here in Nashville. So grateful to have kept up with both of them💚 . The dress is old Forever 21, but I linked a similar one in my stories. Boots are linked in stories too.

Girls Night Out✨ . We’ve had the same argument for almost 20 years... who’s the meanest? 😂 I get a bad rep bc I say what’s on my mind + I don’t sugar coat my words. I call shit like it is. I’m quit to cut folks the fuck off, I’m not quick to give second chances + I’m not friends with people for the sake of friendship. You really have to be adding value to my life, making me a better human or what the fuck are we even doing... . On the flip side, I promise I’m the one you want on your side. I’m sturdy in the dark. I’m the one you will call + I’m the one who will show up when it counts. I will always have your back, no questions asked. You hate that bitch, WE HATE THAT BITCH😂. And, nothing makes me happier than to reflect your light. You got that amazing job, you quit that shitty job, you made a human, you are celebrating... WE ARE CELEBRATING + first round is on me✨ . I often get mistaken for a hard rock, but truly I’m a gem. It’s important that I remind myself of this. Almost as important that I remind @sassy_mpm that I’m not the meanest, she is🏆. And since I’m the nice one, I’m gonna give her the photo cred she deserves (and demanded btw). Normally she takes the shittiest pictures, but somehow managed to get these two shots with my head in them. 2 shots in 20 years... you’re doing amazing sweetie!! . pc // @sassy_mpm . Top + shoes are @Amazon. They are linked in my story + Amazon highlight

When I first started therapy, my therapist + I created some goals for my journey. The first was to beef up my SAHM mom village. I have close friends who are mothers, but they work + getting together is like the Olympic bidding process: everyone puts their date up, hopes the odds are ever in their favor + when they’re not, we don’t see each other for another four years🤷🏽‍♀️. . Being a SAHM can be a bit isolating. It’s like the hunger games, where the challenge changes on the hour + on a lot of days, you’re just using watercolors to survive until nightfall. So my therapist thought it would be good idea to have some familiar faces and to be around other women who are experiencing similar struggles, celebrating similar milestones + who have a similar appreciation for athleisure wear. As an introvert, I died at this suggestion... What if this meant I had to give someone my phone number? Fuck. . But, I obliged bc I think she is right + also I’m paying her cash money, so it’s a waste to ignore her suggestions. I picked some moms that I already knew, liked personally + also as a parent (that part is important), started to invite them to shit + they came. My SAHM Village was born! Thankfully, I didn’t have to give out my number to someone new + it wasn’t even as hard as I thought it would be. . My therapist was right, the familiar faces are comforting + it does feel good to have someone understand that you’re tired, but that you also need to stay up until 1am binge watching Netflix bc decompressing is necessary after 10 hours of talking in 2 word sentences, reading the same book over + over, and making up songs to get little people to eat, sleep, put clothes on + let you wipe their ass. It also feels good to have someone to give knowing looks to when you’re 👌🏽 close to chopping someone else’s kid in the throat. . And, the best part about having a SAHM Village is that you’re getting pictures of this adorable play date from every. angle🙌🏽😂#MomsWhyAreWeLikeThis . Selah to Blake: Get in! We got shit to do + we’re on a schedule.

The other day, my girl @charmsie asked what are the signs that you are maturing/aging + the question came right after I just had a “bitch, you’re almost 40. You need an eye cream!” moment, so the answer seemed obvious, but turning 40 isn’t what makes me feel like I’m getting older. I’m excited about 40! And, if you thought I spoke my mind at 30, watch the fuck out😂. It’s also not the eye cream or the fact that I was like, “I’ll take one of everything @drunkelephant makes,” that makes me feel older. We should all be investing in good skincare. No, I knew I was getting old AF when I heard the total for all those products + I paid it! *insert Leonardo DiCaprio making it rain meme here* . A younger me woulda been like, “I’m good love, enjoy!” and left that shit on the counter! But now, I’m more likely to see purchases as an investment... expensive eye cream today, the still-hot mother of the bride tomorrow! I even bought one of those fluffy headbands that protect your hair when you wash your face. Now all I need is a good face roller thingy + one of those eye masks you stick in the freezer, bc I’ve only used this fancy skincare for one week + you can’t tell me SHIT! I am actin brand new + servin all kinds of glowy freshface💁🏽‍♀️. . This isn’t an ad (although I will totally work for free serum @drunkelephant 🙋🏽‍♀️ #hiyyyeee) its a PSA to all you young thangs: Your time is coming. Enjoy life, but wear sunscreen + save ya coins for the good shit boo😘

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